Have you ever experience sad moments in your life? Lost or Betrayal maybe? that someone did something bad and you feel that you don't deserve it. I believed some point in our life we all experienced this kind of feelings.
The feeling of lost, of being betrayed, and the feeling of sadness because of happenings that was unavoidable. Past experience that until now still haunting us in the present life. Past was pertaining to a former time or state; neither present nor future. They said gone were the days but why others still agonizing the past trouble or past offences.
I myself have the tendency of doing that until I've read this bible verses on Jeremiah 29:11 for I know the plans I have for you, says the LORD. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you future and a hope"
Though I know it was easier said than done but I am getting over it little by little and the big question was how? Like most things that are important, it takes time. Time does heal a wound. And in every healing there is a process.
I believed that acceptance was the number one and most important rule in healing the wounds created by the past. Recognizing it was partly giving us the authority to control the situation and the rest is up to chances and circumstances.
Next was grieve, grieving was known when we lost a loved ones but the truth is we can also grieve in other kinds of sadness that we experience in our daily lives. We need that to move on, to release all the negative vibration we have. While in this process we will feel different emotions from joy, anger, hurt, confusion, uncertainty, self-doubt to insecurity and that was all normal.
The closure was like putting appropriate punctuation in the past incidents. To end the grieving process, to end the feeling of lost and the feeling of sadness. Closure depends entirely to the person being hurt. I for example I never let the past ruin my future. Yes, I was hurt but that was just a feeling, as long as we never did something wrong to the person who hurt us, their conscience will haunt them especially when KARMA strikes back I believe.
4. GETTING OVER
Getting over was like counting your blessing over the most painful things ever happened and you will realize there was more good than bad experiences after all. Consider the long moment of happiness to just a split moment of bad encounter and finally we can achieve a happy and peaceful life that we all want because happiness really lies within us.
And before I end, I want to quote this from my friend's FB account "At the end of the day the one who loves you will not make you cry at night about him/her. They will be right beside you telling you it will be alright" so when you feel bad about the past just tried to focus on the present and feel lucky that you still have someone around that can make you feel happy.