Friday, July 8, 2016

What motivate us?

But what fruit were you getting at that time from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death.
Romans 6:21

This story happened long time ago. It serves as an eye opener to me and my husband, hoping to you as well.

Pepe and Pilar are a loving couple, they are loved by their neighbors, being admired by their relatives, who brought up their kids with love, honestly, humbleness and intergrity. As their children grows up Pepe decided to go abroad just to support their studies and day by day needs since his current salary was not enough to feed and sustain all the needs of his five children. This happened during 80's and 90's by the way. A year where computer and internet are all starting. Pepe was a loving father, every month without fail he is sending all his income to his family. And coming back home every year just to see how his children are doing and what are their progress.

While Pepe is doing his best to provide for his family same credit goes to Pilar. She didn't waste any single centavo because she has a high hope and high dreams for her children since she herself was not able to finish her studies same as Pepe. Years past by fast forward, children finish studies one by one the eldest became an engineer, second became a computer programming working in a casino, the third one got married and had a family, while the remaining two younger children finish studies and became an engineer too thru the help of the other siblings. After all the children had their own life what do you think happened to Pepe and Pilar?

Okey fast forward again, they are both dead now...opppps rewind. This is what happened before they died.

After Pepe's eldest son graduated from college and passed the engineering board exam, he got a stable job. The son decided and told his father to go back home since he has a stable work now and he knows how hard it is to be away from the family. This time the son wanted his father to just enjoy life after all the sacrifices that his father did to their family. Pepe came back home without anything on his pocket. On his first few months everything went well. Pepe is helping his wife in their everyday activity, while children are coming in and out of the house because they already have their own life to live. But as the time passes by life began to change. Since children didn't grew up having the father in their home because he was away during their childhood days, they are not used to many errand that the father was asking. Little did they know there were chaos, and pressure between children and their father.

Pepe started drinking out of boredom and it became an habit to him. He feels that his children didn't respect him and he feels worthless. That every time he is sober that is the only time his children are trying to listened. But the true reason was there was nothing to talk about, no stories, no memories to share because he is not around all days of their growing up years. The usual circumstances of parents leaving their children behind, thinking going abroad they were able to give everything to their children but it's not, time is really more valuable than material things. You cannot bring it back once wasted. Years went by, being sober almost everyday became normal in their household. Pilar got used to it. And because her love to Pepe is greater than the problem they encounter everyday so she doesn't mind or maybe she just wanted to enjoy the remaining days since most of their lives they are away from each other.

Fast forward again children began to create their family of their own. Now the eldest son who carry all the responsibility of his father after becoming a jobless OCW (Overseas Contract Worker) also need to support his own family. There comes a time that He cannot even sustain the basic needs of his children which he cannot be blame because no one taught him how to manage his life specially the financial part. When he began working, he bought in his first salary all the things he wanted. He wanted her mother to be happy he bought her washing machine, television, gas range all his money can offer because He wanted her mother to have the things that she doesn't have for a long time. He wanted to repay his mother all the sacrifices she has done to them.  and every single day he spent all the money he has in his pocket without thinking what will happen the next day, the next week and the next month and year and so on.

And then the inevitable happened, his wife got sick, sickness that needs treatment not only one time but many times. She came in and out of the hospital  and all their money that they have in their pocket were spent. He doesn't have any other income except for his regular jobs. It became an eye opener. That money is not the most important thing in life but the lives of a love ones. That money is not the things that motivates him, but the fear of knowing that sooner or later when some of his love ones afflicted with serious illness how he will going to provide the necessary things, even only the basic if he does not know how to prepare.

Then while preparing the most scary things happened Pilar died because of stroke, brain hemorrhage. So saddened like a strike of lightning volt that the family didn't see it coming. They don't have anything. No savings, no preparations, no nothing. And what do you think happens? The family borrowed money to every single individual they've known. Pilar died leaving his children burried in debts. While Pepe is still alive, but after so many years of drinking without him knowing it, He was already sick. After his wife died he keep on coming back to the hospital for treatment and that happened for years until his last breath.

Pepe and Pilar the couple who has high hopes and high dreams to their children does not enjoy life after years of sacrificing. Does they serve their purpose? The Lord said that the most and greatest commandment of all is to love and serve your neighbor. Did they were able to do that. Yes of course during their younger years. When they still have all the time, energy and resources but as their age deteriorate and their time and energy becomes less, getting old becomes a burden to them and their love ones. Self pity afflicted them and they were not able to see the goodness in life. We cannot blame them because no one also taught them how to do it. But their lives can be a lesson to everyone. Their story will remain forever in our heart, their story became an inspiration to me and my husband. That is why when someone told us hindi lahat ng bagay pera we really distance ourselves to them. (when someone told us it's not all about the money) we know that. Because fyi "We are not motivated with money, the love of family is what motivate us. And we are just terrified thinking getting old and we have nothing to offer."

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