It should be 80/20

          According to some successful individuals or some brainy spiritual people I may say,  there is these rule of the thumb that in many instances 80% of the what happened to us stem from 20% of the causes. Very few people know and apply this secret, that is why millions of people are unhappy, stress, has lots of problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life. Terrible things seem to be constantly in their shoes. Bad days follow after bad days. Worry consumes time, anger breaks friendships, theirs is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest.

         What is this 20% of life made up? It is what happens to us. Then the 80% of it was decided by how we reacted. What does this mean? We really have no control over 20% of what happens to us. We cannot control our husband, relatives and friend to make bad decisions sometimes, just like us they are just only human being. They may hurt us unconsciously others may hurt us so badly because of their selfish reaction but hey they didn't  control our minds to make our life miserable. Don't let people fool you. WE can control how we react! That is the other 80% that makes the difference. Let me give you some example base on my experience.

          4 years ago my husband and I venture into a business which we didn't study carefully. No need to elaborate, but what happened was now a history hehehe...But we did not let our disposition to crumpled and breakdown, even though the business collapse we are not discouraged by what happened to us. Yes. we stop the business, but we are still positive that someday we can do another try and make it happened. With that business we've learned to study our retirement life, we are starting to be careful with our finances. Same as when a devil enters our relationship, we've just learned to know more about each other, became aware of our needs and now more conscious and courteous to each other.  

           I believe now that in every negative there is a positive and in every bad instance there is a blessing in disguise.  That sometimes being nice to the people you don't like isn't called two faced, it's called growing up (thank God I grow and she doesn't because she rejected my friendship bitter till now). That 1o years of being together we've learned that in our everyday life don't let others control you. Because we have the power to rule over our lives, we have the power to be happy, not to be miserable, to enjoy every second of the day. And I used that verses because I believe that we must not fear what kills the body, like how people treated you, how others looks upon you. We must be more aware and afraid of both what kills the body & the souls. Now ask yourself can YOU control how you react!