Forgiveness equals Freedom

It is said that to "Err is human, to forgive is divine. When people do wrong things to us it was quite hard to understand them but believed me we should try hard to forgive them because all people make mistakes. Actually I don't understand this message before especially during the time when I was a bit immature. I thought then that this bible verses was made only for saints and not for a sinner like me. But watching the video's from Men of Light I've realized more  that forgiveness was really a gift you give to yourself instead of something you give to another person. It is the best gift you can give to yourself and you can benefit greatly from it too. If you don't forgive, then you let the past and another person control how you feel. By forgiving, you release yourself from those bonds. After 36 years of existence, I encounter countless people who hurt my feelings who are an inconsiderate, self-centered and immature creature (maybe I was like them before hehehe). But as time passes by and bad experiences became one of  my favorite company. I've learned that Forgiveness Provides Freedom - Freedom From Pain and Freedom of Action. To forgive easily, refuse to give the bad person or the bad situation control of your feelings. Tell yourself, "I'm not giving you the power to hurt me, trust me it was somehow effective it opens the door in your heart to love.


But I tell you, don't stand against an evil person. If someone hits you on the right cheek, then turn and let him hit the other cheek too. If a person wants to sue you in court and take your shirt, then let him have your coat too. If a soldier forces you to walk with him one mile, then go with him two miles. If a person asks you for something, then give it to him. Don't refuse to give to a person that wants to borrow from you. You have heard that it was said, Love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I tell you, love your enemies. Pray for those people that do bad things to you. If you do this, then you will be true sons of your Father in heaven. Your Father lets the sun rise for the good people and the bad people. Your Father sends rain to people that do good and to people that do wrong. If you love only the people that love you, then you will get no reward. Even the tax collectors do that. And if you are nice only to your friends, then you are no better than other people. Even the people without God are nice to their friends. So you must be perfect, the same as your Father in heaven is perfect.So you must be perfect, the same as your Father in heaven is perfect. This was taken from Matthew  5: 39-48.

God's Blessing

                                          

Have you ever heard the phrase, "you always hurt the one you love?" It's so true isn't it? I cannot say that I have a wonderful marriage with my husband, but I enjoyed the long hours of talking without getting bored. For how many years of being together we have our own shares of disgusting attitude, hurtful words and unavoidable differences. But if I am going to ask myself if there was any regret in marrying my husband the honest answer was not a bit. I am not trying to pull my husband up just like what some immature people assume and I am not pretending that I have a very wonderful and perfect marriage, there's no such thing as perfect marriage I believed. And if  someone ask me  if I am going to marry my husband over again, without any hesitation my honest answer was YES without batting an eyelash. 

My husband was not perfect and neither do I, but we have countless memories that we can share and laugh with until we grow old maybe. I believed that If you are in a healthy relationship, the hurt was unintentional. It is important to realize that your loved one didn't plan on causing you pain. While thinking about my marriage in the middle of the night. I accidentally read an e-mail sent a while ago by someone special and close to my heart it was not intended for me, it was written for her, but it blessed my day because it's the most loving and sincerest letter I've ever read so far. 

And this e-mail makes me cry. I'd cry because it made me realize how  blessed I am to be associated with such wonderful people around who knows how to love truthfully. I know some people who cause me pain lately, but it's true for this saying and I quote "When in life you have to put up with mean & hateful people, think of them as sandpaper. They may scratch you & Rub you the wrong way...But eventually - YOU end up smooth & polished. The sandpaper - Is just going to be worn out & ugly. I hope it makes sense for life was too short to put anger in it every day. 

Did you Marry the right person?

Sometimes when our spouse does not meet our expectations, we keep on asking if  "DID" we marry the right person?. This will let you love more your spouses rather than complaining about his/her shortcomings.

How do you know if you married the right person? Here's the answer (based only from articles and seminar attended)...Every relationship has a cycle, in the beginning you fell in the love with your spouse. You anticipated their calls, wanted their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a complete natural spontaneous experience. It was a natural spontaneous experience for both of you to play and flirt because it was part of love, courtship, and marriage. ( So pag di ka nag flirt sa buong buhay mo even with your spouse ibig sabihin tuod ka  meaning your numb kawawa naman spouse mo. I think I need to read more books about Love, Courtship and Marriage.)

People in love sometimes say "I was swept off my feet' Think about that as an imaginary expression. It implies that you were just standing there doing nothing and then something came and it happened to you. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience but after a few years of marriage...the euphoria of love fades...It's the natural cycle of every relationship.

Call becomes annoying, caring become irritating, touch is not always welcome when it happens. And your spouse idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute it drives you nuts. The symptoms of every relationship vary in every relationship, but if you think about your marriage you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love. At this stage you and, or your spouse start asking "Did I marry the right person?" and you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriage breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes and infidelity is the most obvious. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within you. It doesn't mean that you couldn't fall in love with someone else and TEMPORARILY you'd feel better...but, trust me, you'd be in the same situation a few years later because (carefully take note of this) THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; ITS LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. and SUSTAINING love is not passive or spontaneous experience (so continuous flirting with your spouse) or love it will NEVER just happened to you.

You can't  find LASTING love. You have to "MAKE" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love" because it takes TIME, EFFORT and ENERGY and most importantly it takes WISDOM (so read more my friend to have wisdom). You have to know what to do, to make your marriage work, make no mistake about it (kung ayaw mong matulad sa iba). Love is not a mystery there are certain laws you have to follow, with or without your spouse to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe such as gravity. There are also laws in a relationship, just as the right diet and exercise program that makes you physically stronger. Just as the right reading materials for the brain to gain knowledge (read more my friend to know between reality and senseless judgment) . Certain habits with your relationship will make your marriage stronger.

It's a direct cause and effect, if you know and apply the laws the results are predictable and you can make LOVE. So huwag maging tuod (numb) baka iwan ka ng spouse mo hehehe.

LOVE in MARRIAGE is INDEED a  "DECISION" not just a FEELING.

Anybody can be a Hero

It was nice watching I witness Mga lihim ng pamilya ni *Jose Rizal. When Howie ask Barbara Gonzales, Jose Rizal's *Apo sa tuhod if what is the truth behind that accomplished history. Kung ilalabas ang mga ikinahihiyang lihim (if they are going to tell their shameless secrets) of Rizal Family. Barbara said," What's wrong just tell the truth, the truth is the best thing, It will show every Filipinos that anybody can be a hero it doesn't have to be with a beautiful family. So if you are someone who only knows how to judge other people's bad side. Watch this. my friend you might learned something and think that we don't need to be perfect to have a life of a hero.  

*Philippine National Hero
*Great grand daughter

Learning by Falling

Success never comes after the first attempt. Whatever your goal is there will be obstacles on your way to success. They are part of life. Expect them. Learn from them and adapt.

I know most of us have heard this many times that failure is a relative of success. That we should and must encounter failure before we can enjoy success. There's a lot of stories about successful people and we cannot imagine how they achieve such enormous success without having multiple failure in life. 

Walt Disney was turned down 302 times before he got financing for his dream of creating the “Happiest Place on Earth”. 

Colonel Sanders spent two years driving across the United States looking for restaurants to buy his chicken recipe. He was turned down 1,009 times! How successful is Kentucky Fried Chicken today? 

“Chicken Soup For The Soul" was rejected by publishers 170 times - now it's sold 70 million copies! 

Steve Jobs lost his position as CEO in apple (the company he started it all) at the age of 30 just to find out later that God has something store for him, until he created PIXAR or else we don't even know Woody, Andy and Buzz lightyear and the first computer animated film might not be created and maybe we never have the chance to enjoy it and other box office animated film after Toy Story.

It says that success lies in a person's willingness to make relentless, step-by-step efforts. That without failing there is no learning of improvement. Failing should not be seen as a bad thing but rather a stepping stone.

I myself experience it and I am proud of it. I know I did some crazy things and stuff before, that destroy my credibility as a person but it doesn't matter. What matter most was I've learned, I mature, and deep in my heart I never regret anything. So when someone condemn you and look down at you because of the past mistakes happened in your life. Just laugh at them and go on with your life. Besides we are all human beings and we are meant to make mistakes, and learned from it, stumble, stand and move on.